Saturday, 27 October 2012

Flourishing Relationships - Worry Warts Watch Out!

One of the things that we as humans are very good at is worrying.

OMG - it just might happen!
The problem here is that worry causes all sorts of problems and does not usually offer solutions. It can cause difficulties within relationships and even cause rifts between people that do not need to be there.

When we worry, our mind goes around and around stewing over the issue and causing our stress levels to rise. This puts tension in our bodies including our brains and we can't think clearly. The more we worry, the more the fear builds. At best we carry on with the worry simmering away in the background making us feel bad. At worst we can't eat, we can't sleep, we become emotionally out of balance and our immune system becomes compromised so that we can, if we let the worry go too far, become sick.

All this can put a real strain on our relationships as we are unable to communicate properly. The people we are closest to do not share with us what is going on with them for fear that it will cause us to worry. The problem with this is that not knowing what is going on can make our worrying even worse as we can imagine things that are not actually happening. Molehills can so easily become mountains!

What to do? 

  • Remember that it is your mind that is doing the worrying not you and you can control your mind. In fact learning to control your mind is essential to health and happiness. 
  • Remember that worry does not solve the problem It just makes you feel bad. So make the decision not to worry.
  • Write down what you are worrying about using a pen and paper and then rip up the paper without re-reading it. This is a good way to get the worry out of your head.
  • Once you have stopped the worry, you can then discuss the issue and take steps to finding a solution.

A Worry Warrior 
Congratulations to all who decide that they are no longer going to be a "worry wart".
You have now become a "Worry Warrior" and have joined those of us who have given up worrying and enjoy a more peaceful mind.

Hilary Thompson
The Out and About Therapist
Facilitator at Flourishing Relationships Retreats

No comments:

Post a Comment