Saturday, 20 October 2012

Flourishing Relationships - Warning Flags

In my last post I talked about how hiding your head under your wing like a snoozing duck and refusing to resolve issues can cause problems within a relationship.

Flying Flags

Relationships can be put under stress by many things and life will often wave a flag at us to make us take note of what it is that we need to address. 

To ignore these "flags"  is to do so at the risk of damaging your relationship beyond repair. 

Pretending that there is nothing wrong with your relationship when you and your partner are no longer getting along like you used to do,  is nothing short of foolish.

As I have said before, a relationship needs to be nurtured and worked on by both partners. A relationship can not run by it's self. 

Is life waving a "flag" at you, trying to show you that there are issues that you need to address and resolve with your partner? Here are some examples of "flags":

  • Often fighting with each other
  • Being secretive
  • Not talking to each other
  • Using the kids as emotional blackmail
  • Interference from parents or in-laws
  • Emotional,verbal or physical abuse at all levels
  • Not being truthful with each other
These are just some of the common "flags".There are of course, many others. If you see "flags" in your relationship, then get some help before it is too late. Getting help is OK. Getting help does not mean that you and your partner are bad people. We all need a little help now and then to get ourselves and our relationships back on track.

Hilary Thompson
The Out and About Therapist
Facilitator at Flourishing Relationships Retreats

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