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In some ways this can work quite well, as it can mean that there is always one parent home for the children.
But what of the relationship between the two of you? This can be a real trap if your not careful. Closeness and intimacy can be sacrificed and the relationship suffers as a result.
It is so easy to focus on bringing up the children and working to earn enough money to give the family a good life. It is so easy to forget about nurturing the primary relationship in the family, which of course is the relationship between the parents.
So what to do? Here are a few ideas for you to think about:
- Take some regular time out together without the children. Have a regular "date night out" or a weekend away.
- Have a serious look at your lifestyle. Are there things that you really don't need in your lives? In which case, get rid of them. De-cluttering can be very satisfying.
- Are you providing your Children with too much stuff? Too many activities? Not enough of your time?
- Consider pruning your work hours, can you have a simpler, more satisfying life with less money? Less hours at work means more time together and isn't that valuable?
The Out and About Therapist
Facilitator at Flourishing Relationships Retreats